When I was a kid my mom used to joke around and tell people that I was found in a dumpster because I had dark skin compared to her fair complexion. Back then I don’t think it bothered me all that much. I would just laugh it off like everyone else would because it was just a joke, right? However, looking back at it now, I see how the words she spoke over me had a pretty significant effect on how I saw myself growing up. It hindered my belief in myself and caused me to not only question who I was but it also caused me to doubt what I was capable of becoming. I was the one who never seemed to get very far in life, the one that my own parents claimed they found in a dumpster (joking or not, that hurts!). So parents (anyone really), please be careful how/what you say to your kiddos. Or to anyone for that matter, because you just never know how the person on the receiving end of those words is taking it. I don't think my mom knew how it really made me feel or how much it affected my self-image. A lot of the time we think that our words are merely words. But I believe that words have more power than we think, and we should be more mindful of how we use them. The bible says in Proverbs 18:21 that death and life are in the power of the tongue. What are you speaking into the lives of others? Something to think about!
A little joke can be taken far from lightly when other things factor into what is being said. For instance, whenever I would look at pictures of me and my siblings I always felt like the odd one out for some reason. I mean, we’re a blended family so it makes sense that we don’t really look alike but I just remember that thought crossing my mind pretty often. I wondered, “Am I adopted? Maybe I really was found in a dumpster like my mom always says.” I come from a family of musical talent, clever and crafty designing skills, and the ability to hustle for, well pretty much anything. I never felt I was good at any of that. I don’t play any instruments or sing very well. I always enjoyed crafts but I wouldn’t consider myself to have a creative mind or the natural ability to come up with ideas for projects. I tried to get into business and sales and learn the whole hustler mentality but it just wasn’t my thing. I would frequently struggle with this and I’d ask myself, “What am I good at? What do I love to do? What is God’s will for me? Where do I belong?? Ahhhh! I have no idea!” For years I questioned my purpose with no clear answers or direction. I was stuck going in circles while my siblings seemed to be growing in some way or another. Even if the areas they were growing in weren't the most ethical or honest ways, they were still making moves. So, I just assumed that I was adopted and figured maybe my life was just meant for making mistakes that others can learn from and that was my purpose. Gosh, it sounds so silly now that I’m saying it.
Praise God he didn’t leave me in that place! The Lord revealed to me a truth that totally reshaped my thoughts about feeling like the outcast of the family. I AM ADOPTED INDEED! Adopted into the Lord’s royal family where potential is limitless and talents are supernatural rather than genetic or tangible. With a father whose love and acceptance is infinite and unconditional. How amazing is that? Instead of feeling down about being different he opened my eyes to see how he spent that much more time making me extra unique. What a beautiful picture of how faithful he is in using the lies that are intended to keep us down and turning them into a powerful truth that lifts us to a higher purpose.
So count it all joy if you’re one of those people who has a hard time finding your place. Whether it be in your family, your workplace, your church, etc. Just because you don’t have any obvious natural talents or skills doesn’t mean you don’t have a purpose worth sharing with the world. It just means that your purpose is greater than yours or anyone else’s thoughts about who you are or should be. Your purpose is to be a vessel for the Lord to display his supernatural talents through you. Whatever that may look like in your life...
Before I go, I want to leave you with some words of encouragement that a mentor of mine once shared with me when I struggled to believe that the Holy Spirit could use me. She said, “God doesn’t call the equipped, he equips the called.” That really stuck with me and though sometimes it’s still hard to fathom a perfect God using such an imperfect person to do his works, I do believe it. It’s true, we really don’t need natural abilities when we have a God who empowers us with his supernatural abilities. If ever in doubt, ask yourself… Why would the Lord our God, creator of heaven and earth, put a limit on his own abilities and sell himself short of the glory that is his?
Be encouraged! He has adopted us into his royal family and made each of us with a unique gift to share with the world!
He predestined and lovingly planned for us to be adopted to Himself as [His own] children through Jesus Christ, in accordance with the kind intention and good pleasure of His will -Ephesians 1:5 (AMP)
Love & Blessings!